Bad Bad Teacher

Ok. I was interested as to what happened with Wilcox so I decided to google him and found this site. Very good site I must say. But I can’t stand how they say that SHE was the victim! How is she the victim when got with two freaking teachers?! There must have been lack of attention at home. I know who she is and it is quiet sickening that people are calling her a freaking victim and that Wilcox has to pay for counseling for her and her family. Yeah he did a messed up thing, but it wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t messed up to begin with!

Geezus christ!!!

Umm that beezy should have got in trouble to! i knew her and she knew exactly what she was doing, so to call her innocent and that she is blameless is (Deleted by site moderator)…yeah he was wrong in what he did but he was also a really great teacher who would help you out know matter what. but we all mess up it isnt like she was some little (***) kid!!!

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I can’t believe that all of this is happening to Helix. I just wanted to say quickly I had Mr. Wilcox my freshman and jr. year back in 98 and 99 and he never made me feel uncomfortable in anyway or the other kids in the class. Lets not forget it take two to do the Mambo Mattress!

To Guru:

By blameless do you mean that a 17 year old woman, who is not deaf, mute, or blind, is completely unaware of the consequences (for the teacher) of engaging in a sexual relationship with a teacher/person in authority that you can learn by simply watching the nightly news or seeing news reports on the internet of the increasing number of schools dealing with this sort of scandal? Or do you mean that she has the same blamelessness as a completely sober woman who was dressed conservatively in every manner who was forced upon and raped against her will? Please, save us the “cause and effect of sex” speech, because that only proves more that the parents were negligent. Let’s say, hypothetically, that she is completely blameless, and that she didn’t realize how much trouble she could get Wilcox into by sleeping with him. Without having to state the obvious, YES WILCOX IS AT FAULT. He was the adult in the situation, but wouldn’t she have been a little more aware of what consequences may follow sex if her parents had taken the time to educate her? Please, I knew the possible effects of sex when I was fourteen, and because I knew those I didn’t become involved with anyone until I was 17, and even then I knew what I could be risking. I certainly didn’t get involved with any teachers because I had a little thing called “common sense”. Perhaps you’ve heard of it, but based on your statements you refuse to exercise it.

As a society we so often confuse what and who should be considered a role model. Teachers are just that: Teachers. They are there to teach us a subject, not how to live our lives. That is what our parents are for. If we cannot look to our parents as role models, then yes, someone needs to step in, but to be quite honest, our government does not pay teachers enough to assume that role. For that matter, we shouldn’t put our complete trust as citizens in teachers, because we know nothing of their personal lives. Case in point: Garry Wilcox, Mary Kay Liternou (not sure how you spell her name but you get the idea), the previous two teachers at Helix, and any other teacher that has been mixed up with a student. Why, instead of putting all your faith in what the teachers are educating our children about, don’t you take the time to sit down with your kids and teach them “the facts of life” yourself? Teachers are certified and employed to educate students in a specific subject or trade so they are better prepared for the occupational aspect in life. Lessons like integrity, honesty, self-respect and respect for others are meant for us to instruct our children in. WE need to be their role models, because they not only see our professional lives, but they see how we live our personal lives. WE need to live by example. WE need to teach them the consequences of our actions. WE NEED TO BE THERE FOR THEM EACH DAY, NOT PUT THE JOB ON THE SCHOOL SYSTEM AND PRAY THEY ARE MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES.

I spent my high school years without a father figure because mine passed away when I was 10. Yes, I was drawn to authority figures, but because I needed that reassurance that I was doing something right with my life, and that I was achieving my goals. That didn’t cause me to go sleeping or flirting with all my male teachers just because I needed that security. When I needed security, I learned to go talk to my brothers, or a family friend, or even a pastor. This is yet again another example of why the parents need to be more involved. If what you’re saying really is true, Guru, that she was looking for security because she was “naturally drawn to older men”, then why wasn’t her father a better influence in her life? If we fail as parents, we set up our children to fail. So in a way, yes you are correct, she is blameless. But a 17 year old girl, who is close to being considered a legal adult, and was a junior in high school, meaning that she was there when the first two sex scandals occured, should have been fully aware of what would happen should she have acted on her urges. She knew he was married, and she knew what could happen if anyone found out. But she made the selfish decision to act with him, when she could have taken the higher road and simply said no. Instead, she has now torn apart two families, and ruined two careers. I would have believed her to be blameless if it had only happened with Wilcox, but because she continued on to Wenham, and now it’s speculated there was one more teacher she involved herself with, I can’t believe anyone would see her as anything close to a victim.